The Guardian Broadcast
"Providing Concealed Carry & Armed Self-Defense Wisdom."
A podcast by Patrick Kilchermann, founder of the Concealed Carry University.
"Gratification vs. Satisfaction and the Guardian Lifestyle"
Temporary gratification is often the reason we never reach satisfaction in many areas of our lives, and this week Pat is going to shine a light on this dark recess of human psychology and explain how it relates to the Guardian lifestyle.
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This week, I want to dispense a little bit more wisdom – or what I see as wisdom. This is something that has to do with gratification. I used to think gratification was a good thing, but I really don’t anymore. Some synonyms of gratification are indulgence… relief… appeasement. In other words: short-term distractions, probably from something more important.
Now people always say: we should focus on delayed gratification. The longer we can wait to indulge, the better our indulgence will be. So, keep saving and you can get an even better vehicle, or an even bigger house. Hold out longer, and we can get something better. Well, I’m beginning to see that whether we take our gratification now or later doesn’t really matter. Gratification is gratification, and probably the bigger we go, the harder we fall.
My eyes are beginning to open to the difference between gratification and actual satisfaction. Some synonyms of satisfaction are fulfillment. Happiness. Contentment. And this is a lot different than gratification. The way I see it, gratification seems to plug holes in our senses. Our 5 senses: sight, hearing, touch, taste, smell. It seems like it’s possible for a person to get to a place where they’re trying to cram as much into their senses as possible… to try to replace something that’s missing… or to try to distract themselves from pain… or sadness.
Satisfaction is different though; it’s deeper than the senses. Satisfaction seems to be inside. It’s deeper, longer lasting, and probably therefore more genuine.
Alright: now I am by NO means speaking from a position of moral superiority here. In life, this is a constant struggle for me: gratification vs. satisfaction. I didn’t have the nicest things growing up, and so now I like nice things. I like to work with the nicest tools, I like good engineering, and I like to be comfortable: probably all to a big fault. But I think all these things can either be sources of satisfaction OR gratification – depending on whether we do them right, or if we do them wrong. I also like to work HARD, and work – I’m realizing – can be either a source of satisfaction OR gratification. Again, depending on how we do it. Some days I hit it hard so that I can build something useful, chasing excellence. Other days, I hit work hard because I want to forget that I haven’t done anything fun with my kids in a few days.
All that is to say, it’s a big struggle for me. But I understand that the struggle is where gains are made. And my point here today with this first half of this Guardian Broadcast is to point out that the struggle between Gratification and Satisfaction exists hardcore and all throughout this industry and vocation of guns, gun stuff, gun training, and living the Guardian Lifestyle. To see that this is true, one has to look no further than YouTube channels of phones getting shot… computers getting shot… cars getting run over with tanks, and on and on.
Amen I say to you. Most firearms… many cartridges… many holsters, many carry positions, many training schools of thought, and many training schools or businesses are set up and arranged almost SOLELY for the purpose of gratification. Not satisfaction. Why? Because gratification is EASY. Gratification SELLS. Satisfaction is HARD. It is challenging.
That’s the point I want to make. Standing in a shooting lane for 27 minutes and firing 120 rounds and calling it good – this is easy. Seeing the bullet holes appear is gratifying. Or standing shoulder to shoulder with other students and doing things that we’re told look tactical is gratifying. Getting a certification, or a certificate – these things are gratifying. Being able to say we trained with a big name. Telling how many rounds we fired. These things can be signs of good, but they are usually signs of gratification. They make us feel like we did something – even if, deep inside, we know we really didn’t because we don’t feel any different.
And then what? Like the short-sighted policy writer, the typical human says: “well, in that case I need MORE gratification. THEN I will feel different. THEN I will feel complete.”
I submit that YOU are different. Anyone who can endure my 20-hour education in the Complete Guide, who hits the gun range or who drives an hour to get to a more secluded and free gun range… and who is seeking to drive that education home with something like 3 SECONDS FROM NOW, and anyone who practices visualizing… practices clearing their home… runs dry practice for hours and hours every year. This is all pointing toward lasting fulfilment for you as a Guardian. Lasting Satisfaction.
Amen I say to you. Satisfaction is rarely glamorous. You don’t get awards for being a good dad. Or being a good mom. Or for taking care of your aging parents. You don’t get tens of thousands of YouTube views by dry-drawing and dry-firing at photorealistic targets.
You score points with fan clubs by looking cool as you do things – you score satisfaction by actually being lethal. You score points with fan clubs by designing internet memes and praising people who run in with guns blazing and who by the stroke of luck and nothing else aren’t wasted – you score satisfaction by understanding prudence.
The reward for satisfaction is all within. It is that quiet sense of honor… of confidence... and internal peace.
This is your trajectory, if you’re not already there. The gratified are turbulent. They are nervous and afraid. But YOU are like a rock – to yourself and those around you. I’ll see you next week.