The Guardian Broadcast
"Providing Concealed Carry & Armed Self-Defense Wisdom."
A podcast by Patrick Kilchermann, founder of the Concealed Carry University.
"Foundations – Making Lasting Change"
This week, Pat wants to revisit a critical enabling factor for REAL, lasting change - the understanding of how change happens and why it is so unbelievably important that we set our minds up to expect change to happen this way.
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Hello and welcome to the Guardian Broadcast, this is number 116. I’m your host, and founder of the Concealed Carry University, Patrick Kilchermann.
This week, I want to talk about how CHANGE happens. I’m referring to every kind of human change. Changes in our behavior. Changes in our habits. Changes in our bodies. Changes in our skill levels.
And I want to talk about change because, from my perspective, I see that many failures related to concealed carry all stem from a profound misunderstanding about how real, effective change happens in our lives.
First, I want to address the differences between Revolutionary change and Evolutionary change. A revolutionary change is something that happens in the blink of an eye. From one day to the next. Sudden, dramatic, eye-catching change. On the other hand, an evolutionary change is one that happens very gradually. Over the course of many days, or weeks, or usually months or years. You cannot see evolutionary change from one day to the next. If you look at today and compare it to yesterday, it will appear as if nothing has changed. But over a long period of time, the change is observable. If we look at where we are today and compare that to where we were last year, we see some change. That is evolutionary change.
Now, we humans seem to be hard-wired to crave and chase revolutionary change. We want to believe that we can quit our bad habits cold turkey. We want to believe in dramatic religious conversions and deathbed confessions. We want to believe that by following ‘one weird trick’ we will suddenly be able to “impress her,” or drive tacks with our guns, or lose 7lbs of belly fat, or gain 5lbs of muscle, or make $722 an hour from home by working one hour per day. We want to believe that winning the lotto is our best shot at becoming wealthy. We crave revolutionary change because…. well, because we’re lazy. At least, our default state is one of laziness. We want a quick fix to problems that took years to develop. We want the result and we want it now. We want revolution.
However, this craving that we have for ‘everything right now’ stands in contrast to pretty much the only way I’ve ever seen meaningful, lasting change happen in my life or anywhere else: and that is, evolutionarily. Slow change, gradual change… change derived by methodical, steady, persistent actions done consistently over a long, long period of time all totaling up to a measurable change.
Like tiny grains of sand building a mountain over a thousand years. Or like droplets of water eroding a massive rock away to nothing over a million years. But human evolutionary change happens far faster than you’d imagine – and in truth, the results come quicker and last much longer than flimsy attempts at revolutionary change.
Rather than trying to concoct a business scheme or flip an investment, evolutionary change is the 401K that, after 40 years, shows a massive sum of money. Rather than blowing 300 rounds 3 times per year at the range, evolutionary change is the 8-minute per day Dry-Fire routine that results in laser-tight accuracy after 3 months. Rather than frantically huffing it at the gym for a couple weeks after New Year’s, evolutionary change is the 15-minute walk you go on every night after dinner. It’s cutting the 350-calorie daily latte, or the 300-calorie daily beer, or the 1400 calorie daily burger. It’s doing 200 pull-ups, 200 push-ups, and 200 sit ups every week of your life, and looking awesome all the way through your 70s.
Now here’s the thing: you won’t hear too many people bragging about evolutionary change. Why? Because it’s not glamorous. It’s nothing to brag about. People want to be seen as ‘the natural.’ And people want to believe that the overnight success story is possible, because they want to believe they are still capable of one. They don’t want to admit that if they haven’t changed by now, they’ll never change.
You won’t get your name in the paper for having a great 401K. Nobody throws a parade for you if your successful invention or innovation comes after three thousand failures. And the bearded boys at the gun range would snicker if they watched you snapping in, or dry-firing, for eight minutes before you took your first shot.
But we have to not care. We have to resist and reject that desire for overnight, revolutionary success. We have to develop patience, and put our blinders on, and build our stamina, and learn to delay gratification while keeping our eyes on the prize. We do not want to try to build flimsy, unsustainable towers just to reach great heights – instead, we should seek and work to build strong pillars of skill and habit and behavior on solid foundations, laying layer after layer of bricks.
People who are successful understand the power of evolutionary change, and they reject the glitter and glamour and false, empty promises of revolutionary change pipe-dreams. Because that day will never come. Who we were yesterday is who we will be when we die – UNLESS we get in the right mindset and adjust our expectations and tactics for achieving results. Real, lasting change begins and ends with implementing small, systemized actions that we execute every day until they become habit, and then we keep right on doing them forever.
Bad health doesn’t happen overnight, and neither does good health. Bad marriages don’t happen overnight, and neither do good marriages. You don’t become wise overnight. Or lethal. Or responsible, or safe. Skill and ability and knowledge are built over time. Wisdom and prudence and effectiveness and speed and accuracy and consistency are all built over time. An intuitive sense for and confidence within violent situations happens over time.
It is this systematic, evolutionary, bite-sized-but-huge-gain approach that I build all of my CCU Curriculum on top of. All it requires is a student with the wisdom required to understand that prudence and effectiveness in Mindset, Skill, and Gear are things that will happen over time with a lot of practice and work, and the patience and stamina necessary to do the little things every day that will get you there.
If you’re listening to this 116th episode of the Guardian Broadcast, I’m guessing that you DO have these excellent qualities. And I’m guessing you would be, yourself, a phenomenal educator. I want to encourage you in this. I want you to know that you probably have gifts to bring, and the biggest one is living and leading by example. If you have any passion or motivation to teach or coach, whether in the CCW classroom or at the range, I’d encourage you to try.
Okay, before I go, I want to remind you that Volume 2 of 3 SECONDS FROM NOW is due to be released on Monday, July 10th. I am super, super excited about this program. It defines and instructs the viewer in what I’ve determined is the greatest contributing factor for survival or demise within a self-defense incident or gunfight, following the decision to use force.
We covered developing the reason and justification and the decision to use force in Volume 1. In Volume 2, we cover this ‘secret sauce.’ This energy and spirit behind the deployment of self-defense force that either amplifies or utterly destroys the effectiveness of your attempts to use your firearm.
If you are a natural born fighter, you probably don’t need Volume 2. If you understand the dynamics of intimidation and fist-fighting and combat psychology and the effect that a blistering deployment of force has on your opponent, then you probably don’t need Volume 2. If you have fought many fights and won them all, you don’t need this.
But if you’re anyone else, I think this program will startle you, and I think it will change you.
Because I’ve learned that a tiny portion of effective fighters are born that way, but the rest of us need to learn how. We need to learn how to deploy ourselves and conduct ourselves. Anyone can learn to draw and fire and move and shoot – but the way we do this is the secret sauce. The energy behind our attack.
The goal of Volume 2 is to use real world, caught on tape self-defense incidents to show you this energy in motion in real time, to critique these situations, and then to guide you, step by step at your home and at the range, to developing this blazing energy. This energy I refer to as INTENSITY. And believe me: this one is hot, hot, hot. Professionals have known about this energy. You read about Sun Tsu and Alexander the Great and Cassius Clay and John Boyd and men like John Bassilone and Bill Guarnere, and you can tell: they had this. They understood it.
Some will tell you that you’re either born with it, or you’re not. I reject that. Volume 2, this program due on July 10th, will guide you through developing this.
Why? Because I don’t believe it’s optional. I believe it’s an inseparable component to effective self-defense. And I don’t want you to wait until a violent incident to discover whether you have this energy and ability about you or not: I want to make sure of it. And in Volume 2, I believe I do. Keep your eyes out; I’m very excited about this one.